All true enough—and yes, I am impressed by your creative naming skills. But here is a wrinkle: you are clear upfront with a new partner that you are polyamorous. He is older and has always been polyamorous, but says that at this stage in life, he is content with you—he plans to be monogamous, but can accept that you will have other relationships. Then, after ten years of living together—and navigating through some troubled waters—he annouces that he has a new boundary due to a “spiritual transformation.” As long as you pursue a polyamorous lifestyle, he will abstain from sex with you. He doesn’t want to break up, nor is he asking you to change, he is just setting a new boundary for himself. Ethical? Manipulative?