Actually I am trying not to generalize because I suspect that we are all wired a bit differently in this respect. Personally, the more someone resembles me, the less I am attracted to them (works a bit like self-incompatibility in botany). Although white-haired now, I was a pretty typical brown-haired, blue eyed guy from the Midwest … and those are the types that I have always found least interesting.

To answer your question, that doesn’t preclude all white men for a couple of reasons. First, I do find myself attracted to some blondes and many redheads — so it isn’t simply a matter of skin color. Second, I am polyamorous and I can envision being in a committed relationship with a white brunette who I generally find compatible (intellectual stimulation, shared values, etc.) as long as I had other opportunities for sexual gratification.

My white, brunette partner would have to understand and be comfortable with my preferences, however — we could be intimate, but it wouldn’t be as stimulating to me as it might be to him. In nearly 70 years on this planet, I have come to understand two things: a rich, robust sex life with real passion is incredibly important to me, and I will never again be in a relationship where I have to fake satisfaction for my partner’s sake. That isn’t fair to either person.

But again … that is how it works for me; I definitely don’t want to imply that sexual attraction functions the same way for everyone else.

Thanks for your comments and questions!